Archive for May, 2008

More About the Mind Body Connection

Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

In last week’s post I presented my new Mind Body Health Program dedicated to helping you learn effective tools for creating mind and body teamwork.  Though this is certainly not a new topic in alternative health modalities, it definitely deserves a post of its own.  The connection between the mind and the body is something that other cultures incorporate into every aspect of living.  In our Western society, however, we absolutely need to be reminded that the body and the mind are inseparable.  Somehow the mind has taken on the role of leader in our culture, and many medical and psychological approaches to healing separate the mind from the body as though the two do not coexist.  Seeing the mind and body as separate actually takes a powerful healing tool out of the health equation: The Mind.  Whenever the body is physically unwell, the mind is involved, too.  This isn’t to say that you’re crazy, imagining your symptoms, or being melodramatic.  The mind simply can’t help but be involved in whatever the body is experiencing – it lives at the same address.

Both the conscious and unconscious mind can be an incredibly powerful tool in returning to good health.  Using mental tools to reduce pain, reduce anxiety, allow healing, and improve your emotional state can only help the healing process.  Even better, these mental tools work perfectly alongside physical medical treatments to improve their efficacy and speed healing.  Using the healing power of the mind is a side-effect-free treatment that can be added to any medical plan.

To understand the deeper aspects of mind body healing, you have to understand that thoughts and emotions do not reside only in your brain.  They live everywhere in your body and affect every cell of your being.  For example, think of the muscle tension you feel when you are stressed or afraid.  You can imagine emotion as a vibration within your physical body- almost as if you are a musical instrument and each emotion is a vibrating string.  Different frequencies of emotion feel different inside your body – when you’re happy, you might notice yourself feeling energetic and light.  When you’re depressed, you might notice a lack of energy and a sense of heaviness in your body.  Recognizing this connection between emotion and the physical body can help you see the power of working through negative emotion to release it from both your mental and physical self.  Not only will you feel better mentally, you will also remove something that affects your body negatively. 

Thoughts and emotions are so closely intertwined that you might have trouble recognizing their connection.  Sometimes they happen almost simultaneously, so it’s difficult to separate them and take a good look at what you are thinking.  When you do take this step, you discover the ultimate power of the mind.  When you step back from your thinking, you diffuse its power.  From this place, you can change your own thoughts, change your own emotions, and create a healing environment within your physical body.  Many of us are trying to heal but have poisonous thoughts and emotions traversing our bodies.  I remember thinking primarily negative thoughts that simply fed my despair and hopelessness as I suffered through physical pain.  When I finally realized how much impact my emotional state had on my health, I set to work figuring out ways to improve my emotional state.  I learned deep breathing techniques, sought therapy, tried hypnosis, wrote in my journal, meditated, listened to healing music, sought acupuncture, and finally, worked through my own negative thinking using Martha Beck’s tools. 

Using all of the concepts I learned from these alternative healing modalities, I created a system that worked for me.  I researched the mind body connection out of sheer passion and fascination.  The more I learned, the more I loved the whole approach to healing.  Now, I am privileged to have found a career that includes studying the mind body connection – it just doesn’t get any better than that.  Having stumbled through my own healing process, using myself as a guinea pig, I can share with you a positive, enjoyable, powerful, life-changing combination of tools for allowing the mind and body to work together in harmony.  My hope is that you will find hope and possibility as you read each week’s post, and that you will discover the incredible power of your own mind as you take your journey to fabulous health. 

 

The Mind Body Connection

Tuesday, May 20th, 2008

Over the last few months, I’ve written many different posts regarding effective tools for dealing with the emotional difficulty of facing illnesses such as vulvodynia, interstitial cystitis, and other pelvic pain syndromes.  I have found an integrated mind-body approach to healing very effective in my own life, so I have hoped sharing some of these ideas with you might bring you some relief and help.  My desire is to present a positive message to everyone reading my blog as there is plenty of negative, troubling, and downright scary information floating around the internet regarding pelvic pain syndromes.  In my coaching practice, I work with a variety of concepts, one of which is the law of attraction.  I believe that the more you can focus on the positives, the more you can attract healing into your life – and this was certainly my own personal experience. 

Recently, I have taken all of the ideas I’ve found most helpful, both for myself and clients, and compiled them into a 7-session coaching program designed for individuals looking for relief from the angst of dealing with health issues.  This is a structured coaching format that includes a lot of teaching, which means that clients learn specific tools in each session.  This new program focuses on the mind-body connection to improve your mental, emotional, and physical quality of life.  It is focused, intense, and effective, cutting right to the important material you need to know to feel better fast.

I am introducing it here in today’s post, but will devote a page to it after the next post comes out.  I am excited to share this with everyone and give you all an opportunity to see what the program contains.  If you choose to sign up for the program, you will be working one-on-one with me over the phone, via email, or in person.  Everyone receives a free thirty-minute consult prior to starting the program to allow me to collect all the pertinent information and to make sure you are comfortable with the process. 

The Healthy Life, LLC  Mind Body Health Program

Connecting the mind and body to reduce pain, encourage healing, and deal with the emotional turmoil surrounding illness

Session 1: The Key to Connecting the Mind and Body

Session 2: Feeling the Healing

Session 3: Becoming an Emotional Genius

Session 4: Dealing with Pain

Session 5: Quieting the Mental White Noise

Session 6: Discovering Your Story – What are Your Thoughts Telling Your Body?

Session 7: Power Thinking – Create Your Life

If you are interested in or have questions about the Mind Body Health Program, you can email me anytime. 

Focusing on Pain

Tuesday, May 6th, 2008

I’d like to let you know that I am now also writing for Dr. Echenberg’s website, Secret Suffering.  I hope you enjoy the articles as well as the site, which is jam-packed with helpful information.

When you’re in pain, it can be difficult to think about anything else.  Pain becomes the boss, dictating what activities you choose, how much you enjoy or don’t enjoy life, and how you feel mentally each moment of the day.  It’s no wonder that chronic pain sufferers tend to end up depressed, unhappy, or hopeless, because pain overshadows every moment of their lives.

Most pain sufferers focus their thoughts on what it would be like to live without pain.  I remember this clearly from my own battle with chronic pain.  I spent much of every day thinking about how happy I would be without pain.  I dreamed of living normally, of just doing activities without even having to consider pain.  I imagined myself living a fulfilling, joy-filled life, all because pain was not present.  Now, I have that life.  I live it every single day – day after day of no pain.  Do I relish the joy of living without pain?  Do I think often about how wonderful it is to live without pain?  Truthfully, no.  Every so often, I feel immense gratitude for the life I have now, but other than that, I think very little of physical pain or how it used to feel in my body.  I am too focused in the present, living my current life, to remember the pain.

Ask any mother to remember the physical pain of childbirth, and she’ll pause, think, and tell you she’s forgotten what it felt like.  It’s difficult to remember the physical sensation of pain once it has left your body, for which we can all be thankful.  However, if you take a minute to really consider pain from this perspective, it can be extremely enlightening.  Though pain is felt in the body, it actually exists in the mind.  Without the mind to tell me I am in pain, I would experience pain as only another sensation – like a breeze against my skin or the tickle of sweat between my shoulder blades. 

When I was dealing with vulvodynia and IC, I felt a rotation of symptoms including burning, sharp pain, dull aching internal pain, and itching.  My doctors would often request that I rate my pain on a scale of one to ten, and after a while, I automatically rated my pain throughout the day.  My attention was completely focused on my pain all the time.  After months of this, I began to notice that when I was distracted and not paying any attention to my symptoms, I couldn’t rate them.  I couldn’t put my finger on a number from one to ten because I wasn’t paying attention

Which begs the question:  If I didn’t notice the pain because I was distracted, was I feeling any pain?  The answer was no.  When my attention truly left my pain, when I allowed myself to let go of the rating system and not check in with my pain, it simply didn’t exist.  Why not?  Because pain is actually experienced in the mind.  It is a complex, fascinating, and absolutely freeing concept. 

I wasn’t able to completely let go of all my pain.  Often, it would intrude into my distracted state and bring me back to a pain-focused state.  Simply realizing that my focus made the pain stronger, however, was a very helpful idea.  I let down my vigilant guard whenever I felt safe and let myself focus on other aspects of my life.  I let myself stop wishing for a happy future and brought my attention to happiness available to me in the current moment.  I let myself experience distraction from pain as often as I could.  The less I focused on the pain, the less I felt pain.  The less I felt pain, the happier I felt.  It was the opposite of the other cycle, in which the more I focused on pain, the worse I felt, both mentally and physically. 

Playing this mind-game with pain helps open your experience up to include more happiness, more joy, and more pain-free moments.  There is no need to look to the future for hope – find the good feelings now and bring the future into the present, one moment at a time.  Recognize that pain is simply a sensation.  It does not have to become the boss and take over your life.  You are still in charge. 

Lessons Learned

Thursday, May 1st, 2008

I’d like to let you know that I am now also writing for Dr. Echenberg’s website, Secret Suffering.  I hope you enjoy the articles as well as the site, which is jam-packed with helpful information.

I often think I’ve thoroughly learned something and then life throws me a new experience that takes me deeper than ever into untapped oceans of understanding and clarity.  Having used deep breathing to move through the excruciating pain of vulvodynia and a kidney stone and interstitial cystitis, I felt I had quite a handle on the whole breathing thing.  I’ve been expounding upon it regularly in my posts, blissfully sharing the amazing effects of breathing.  It reduces anxiety.  It stops panic.  It gives you the ability to reach your inner healer.  It reduces pain.  It needs to be a regular part of your life.  Have I been doing it?  No.

As a person who developed physical pain as a result of much unprocessed emotion, including anxiety and panic, I am fully aware of my tendency toward anxiety.  I tend to slip into it easily, and I tend to store it in my body.  While in physical pain, I learned how to relax and release this anxiety through deep breathing, which I would do for forty-five minutes at a time.  I rose from these sessions invigorated, rested, and joyful.  However, I often find it difficult to fit in forty-five minute sessions in my current life.  So, in my typical fashion, I stopped doing the breathing work at all because I felt that I couldn’t do it “right.” 

Well, thankfully, I am a life coach, so I am always available to coach myself.  I called myself up and said, “Hey Coach, I’m not feeling so great this week.  What should I do?”  My Coach Self spoke right up, surprising Non-Coach Me with an inner wisdom I did not expect.  She said, “Breathe.”  Of course, she’s been reading Eckhart Tolle, so I’m pretty sure she stole that straight from him.  Okay, I know she did.  Tolle suggests taking three deep breaths whenever anxiety arises.  I was in such an emotionally negative place that I didn’t even tell if I was feeling anxiety.  I just knew I felt horrible.  So, I sat down and took three deep breaths. 

Voila!  A revelation!  I have been feeling a nearly constant level of anxiety, and I was not even aware of it.  I realized most of my day is spent with some level of tension somewhere in my body, which is the hallmark of anxiety.  I was astounded at the relaxation power of three deep breaths.  Of course forty-five minutes will relax me, but only three breaths?  Is it really even worth it?  The answer is a resounding yes.  Amazed, I incorporated the three breaths into my daily schedule wherever I could.  It’s like taking a little vacation every hour or so.  Every time I stop and breathe, I discover that I am holding a great deal of tension in my body.  I breathe, release the tension, and relax.  Miraculously, I feel about ten times better after only one day of practicing this technique. 

By skipping my breathing exercises because I believed I wasn’t going to be able to do them “right,” I lost the powerful relaxation tool inherent in breathing.  Truthfully, you don’t even have to take deep breaths.  All you have to do is focus on your breath for three cycles.  It’s the mere attention to your breath that holds the magic.  My body feels lighter, having released anxiety regularly all day, and I feel balanced again.  One minute several times a day is easy to fit in, and I am hooked.  I love feeling relaxed.  I love noticing my anxiety and gently exhaling it away.  I feel deeply connected to my essential self and my Inner Healer.  I invite you to try it.  I invite you to take one-minute vacations all day long, connect with your breath, and discover your own anxiety level.  Anxiety does not have to be a way of life.  This is the lesson I have learned, and now re-learned, and will probably keep on learning.  The simplicity of it is absolutely beautiful.  I love to take the three breaths, feel the relaxation, the connection, and the resulting joy.  Let’s do it together, right now.  Breathe.